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When Parents Separate Or Divorce, The Term "Custody" Often Serves As Shorthand For "Who Gets The Children" Under The Divorce Decree Or Judgment. In 20 States, Custody Is Split Into Two Types: Physical Custody And Legal Custody. Physical Custody Refers To The Responsibility Of Taking Care Of The Children, While Legal Custody Involves Making Decisions That Affect Their Interests (Such As Medical, Educational And Religious Decisions). In States That Don't Distinguish Between Physical And Legal Custody, The Term "Custody" Implies Both Types Of Responsibilities.
1. Does Custody Always Go To Just One Parent?
No. Courts Frequently Award At Least Some Aspects Of Custody To Both Parents, Called "Joint Custody." Joint Custody Usually Takes At Least One Of These Forms:
In Every State, Courts Are Willing To Order Joint Legal Custody, But About Half The States Are Reluctant To Order Joint Physical Custody Unless Both Parents Agree To It And They Appear To Be Sufficiently Able To Communicate And Cooperate With Each Other. In Idaho, New Mexico And New Hampshire, Courts Are Required To Award Joint Custody Except Where The Children's Best Interests - Or A Parent's Health Or Safety - Would Be Compromised. These 20 States Expressly Allow Their Courts To Order Joint Custody Even If One Parent Objects To Such An Arrangement: Ak, Az, Ca, Co, Fl, Il, In, Ia, Ma, Mi, Mn, Ms, Mo, Mt, Ne, Nh, Nj, Oh, Ok And Wi (Sd And Ut Also Possibly Fit Within This Group).
2. Can Someone Other Than The Parents Have Physical Or Legal Custody?
Sometimes Neither Parent Can Suitably Assume Custody Of The Children, Perhaps Because Of A Substance Abuse Or Mental Health Problem. In These Situations, Others May Assume Temporary Custody Of The Children Under A Court-Ordered Guardianship Or Foster Care Arrangement.
3. What Factors Do Courts Take Into Account When Making Custody And Visitation Decisions?
The Court Will Normally Favor The Parent Who Will Best Maintain Stability In The Child's Surroundings. There Is No Set Standard As To What Constitutes "Stability," But A Judge Looks For Continuity In A Child's Life. To The Degree Possible, A Judge Will Try To Maintain A Child's School, Community And Religious Ties.
A Court Gives The "Best Interests" Of The Child The Highest Priority. What The Best Interests Of The Child Are In A Given Situation Depends Upon Many Factors, Including:
4. Are There Special Issues If A Gay Or Lesbian Parent Is Seeking Custody Or Visitation Rights?
In A Few States, Including Alaska, California, District Of Columbia, New Mexico And Pennsylvania, A Parent's Sexual Orientation Cannot In And Of Itself Prevent A Parent From Being Given Custody Of Or Visitation With His Or Her Child. As A Practical Matter, However, Lesbian And Gay Parents - Even In Those States - May Be Denied Custody Or Visitation. This Is Because Judges, When Considering The Best Interests Of The Child, May Be Motivated By Their Own Or Community Prejudices, And May Find Reasons Other Than The Lesbian Or Gay Parent's Sexual Orientation To Deny Custody Or Appropriate Visitation.
5. Is Race Ever An Issue In Custody Or Visitation Decisions?
The U.S. Supreme Court Has Ruled It Unconstitutional For A Court To Consider Race When A Noncustodial Parent Petitions For A Change Of Custody. In The Case, A White Couple Had Divorced, And The Mother Had Been Awarded Custody Of Their Son. She Remarried An African-American Man And Moved To A Predominantly African-American Neighborhood. The Father Filed A Request For Modification Of Custody Based On The Changed Circumstance That The Boy Was Now Living With An African-American Man In An African-American Neighborhood. A Florida Court Granted The Modification. The U.S. Supreme Court Reversed, Ruling That Societal Stigma, Especially A Racial One, Cannot Be The Basis For A Custody Decision. Palmore V. Sidoti, 466 U.S. 429 (1984).
6. Are Mothers More Likely To Be Awarded Custody Over Fathers?
In The Past, Most States Provided That Custody Of Children Of "Tender Years" (About Five And Under), Had To Be Awarded To The Mother When Parents Divorced. This Rule Has Been Rejected In Most States, Or Relegated To The Role Of Tie-Breaker If Two Fit Parents Request Custody Of Their Pre-School Children. Only South Carolina And Tennessee Continue To Carry The Tender Years Doctrine In Their Statutes. Most States Require Their Courts To Determine Custody On The Basis Of What's In The Children's Best Interests Without Regard To The Sex Of The Parent.
As It Turns Out, Most Divorcing Parents Agree That The Mother Will Have Custody After A Separation Or Divorce And That The Father Will Exercise Reasonable Visitation. This Sometimes Happens Because Fathers Presume That Mothers Will Be Awarded Custody Or Because The Mother Is More Tenacious In Seeking Custody. In Still Other Situations, The Parents Agree That The Mother Has More Time, A Greater Inclination Or A Better Understanding Of The Children's Daily Needs.
7. When A Court Awards Physical Custody To One Parent And "Visitation At Reasonable Times And Places" To The Other, Who Determines What's Reasonable?
The Parent With Physical Custody Is Generally In The Driver's Seat Regarding What Is Reasonable. This Need Not Be Bad If The Parents Cooperate To See That The Kids Spend A Maximum Amount Of Time With Each Parent. Unfortunately, It All Too Often Translates Into Very Little Visitation Time With The Noncustodial Parent, And Lots Of Bitter Disputes Over Missed Visits And Inconvenience. To Avoid Such Problems, Many Courts Now Prefer For The Parties To Work Out A Fairly Detailed Parenting Plan (Known As A Parenting Agreement), Which Sets The Visitation Schedule And Outlines Who Has Responsibility For Decisions Affecting The Children.
8. Do I Have To Pay Child Support If My Ex Keeps Me Away From My Kids?
Yes. Custody And Visitation Should Not Be Confused With Child Support. Every Parent Has An Obligation To Support His Or Her Children. When One Parent Has Visitation Rights (But Not Physical Custody), He Or She Is Usually Ordered To Pay Some Child Support To The Other Parent. The Parent With Physical Custody Is Deemed To Meet The Support Obligation Through The Custody Itself.
With One Narrow Exception, No State Allows A Parent To Withhold Visitation Because The Other Parent Owes Support, Or To Withhold Support Because Of Disputes Over Visitation. The Exception? If The Custodial Parent Disappears For A Lengthy Period So That No Visitation Is Possible, A Few Courts Have Ruled That The Noncustodial Parent's Duty To Pay Child Support May Be Considered Temporarily Suspended.
One Important Study Discovered A Telling Relationship Between Custody And Visitation Arrangements, Levels Of Conflict And Payment Of Court-Ordered Child Support. Fathers Tended To Continue Paying Child Support When They Had Regular And Frequent Daytime And Overnight Visits With Their Children. The Less Involved With Their Children's Lives They Became, The Less Apt They Were To Keep Paying Support, And Their Compliance Fell Off Over Time.
9. I Have Sole Custody Of My Children. My Ex, Who Lives In Another State, Has Threatened To Go To Court In His State And Get The Custody Order Changed. Can He Do That?
All States And The District Of Columbia Have Enacted A Statute Called The Uniform Child Custody Jurisdiction Act, Which Sets Standards For When A Court May Make A Custody Determination And When A Court Must Defer To An Existing Determination From Another State. Having The Same Law In All States Helps Standardize How Custody Decrees Are Treated. It Also Helps Solve Many Problems Created By Kidnapping Or Disagreements Over Custody Between Parents Living In Different States.
In General, A State May Make A Custody Decision About A Child Only If It Meets One Of These Tests (In Order Of Preference):
If A State Cannot Meet One Of These Tests, The Courts Of That State Cannot Make A Custody Award, Even If The Child Is Present In The State! In The Event More Than One State Meets The Above Standards, The Law Specifies That Only One State May Make Custody Decisions. This Means That Once A State Makes A Custody Award, Any Other State Must Keep Its Hands Off The Matter.
10. I Have Sole Physical Custody Of Our Children. Several Times My Ex Has Not Returned The Kids On Time After Taking Them For A Visit, And I'm Scared One Day He Won't Return Them At All. What Are My Rights As The Custodial Parent?
In Most States, It's A Crime To Take A Child From His Or Her Parent With The Intent To Interfere With That Parent's Physical Custody Of The Child (Even If The Taker Also Has Custody Rights). This Crime Commonly Is Referred To As "Custodial Interference." In Most States, The Parent Deprived Of Custody May Sue The Taker For Damages, As Well As Getting Help From The Police To Have The Child Returned.
If A Parent Without Physical Custody (Who May Or May Not Have Visitation Rights) Removes A Child From - Or Refuses To Return A Child To - The Parent With Physical Custody, It Is Considered Kidnapping Or Child Concealment In Addition To Being Custodial Interference. Federal And State Laws Have Been Passed To Prosecute And Punish Parents Guilty Of This Type Of Kidnapping, Which Is A Felony In Over 40 States. In Many States, Interfering With A Parent's Custody Is A Felony If The Child Is Taken Out-Of-State. Many States, However, Recognize Good-Cause Defenses, Such As Where The Taker Acted To Prevent Imminent Bodily Harm To Self Or To The Child. In Addition, Some States Let A Parent Take A Child Out-Of-State If The Parent Is Requesting Custody In Court And Has Notified The Court Or Police Of The Child's Location.
11. I've Heard That Mediation Is The Best Approach To Solving Child Custody Matters. Things Are So Bitter Between My Ex And Me That It's Hard To See Us Sitting Down Together To Work Things Out. How Can Mediation Possibly Work?
Mediation Is A Non-Adversarial Process Where A Neutral Person (A Mediator) Meets With Disputing Persons To Help Them Settle The Dispute. The Mediator Does Not, However, Have Power To Impose A Solution On The Parties.
Mediation Is Often Used To Help A Divorcing Or Divorced Couple Work Out Their Differences, Especially Over Custody And Visitation Disputes. Some Lawyers And Mental Health Professionals Employ Mediation As Part Of Their Practice. Several States Require Mediation In Custody And Visitation Disputes And A Number Of Others Allow Courts To Order Mediation. In California And A Few Other States, If The Parties Do Not Reach Agreement, The Mediator Is Usually Asked By The Court To Make A Recommendation. In Most States, However, The Mediator Plays No Further Role If The Parties Can't Agree. Mediators Are Very Skilled At Getting Parents Who Are Bitter Enemies To Cooperate For The Sake Of Their Children. The More Parents Can Agree On The Details Of Separate Parenting, The Better It Will Be For Them And Their Children. And Mediators Are Skilled At Getting The Parents To Recognize This Fact And Then Move Forward Towards Negotiating A Sensible Parenting Agreement. If There Is A History Of Abuse Or The Parents Initially Cannot Stand To Be In The Same Room With Each Other, The Mediator Can Meet With Each Parent Separately And Ferry Messages Back And Forth Until Agreement On At Least Some Issues Is Reached. At This Point, The Parties May Be Willing To Meet Face To Face.
12. Under What Circumstances Can Custody Orders Be Changed Within The State Where They Were Obtained?
After A Final Decree Of Divorce Is Filed With A Court, Former Spouses May Agree To Modify The Custody Or Visitation Terms. This Modified Agreement (Also Called A "Stipulated Modification") May Be Made Without Court Approval. If One Person, However, Later Reneges On The Agreement, The Other Person May Not Be Able To Enforce It Unless The Court Has Approved The Modification. Thus, It Is Generally Advisable To Obtain Court Approval Before Relying On Such Agreements. Courts Usually Approve Modification Agreements Unless It Appears That They Are Not In The Best Interests Of The Child. If A Parent Wants To Change An Existing Court Order Affecting Custody Or Visitation And The Other Parent Won't Agree To The Change, He Or She Must File A Motion Requesting A Modification Of The Order From The Court That Issued It, Usually On The Ground Of Changed Circumstances. Requiring A Showing Of Changed Circumstances Encourages Stability Of Arrangements And Helps Prevent The Court From Becoming Overburdened With Frequent And Repetitive Modification Requests. Some Examples Of Changed Circumstances:
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